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Take the Vow to End Fighting with Your Children

Do you think fighting is natural, that a fight now and again keeps a relationship live? Do you believe fighting within the home is good for you, and especially for the children?

Fighting within the home is definitely not pleasant. In fact, most times it's downright ugly. Each time there is a fight, regardless of how brief, it still drains one of energy and leaves a lingering negativity in the space. Not only do the people fighting often regret things said and done, but the children end up hating being at home because it's such an unpleasant experience. It's also possible that they could end up developing guilt feelings and a low self image if they think they're the cause of the fights.

So, who gets affected the most due to fights in the family? The children. They are the ones who suffer the most when there are nasty, explosive situations within the family. So much stuff that they need not have been exposed to comes out into the open and it does affect them very negatively. It leaves them feeling nervous and insecure, and eventually unloved. A number of parents think that fighting is a natural and healthy phenomenon. I sincerely hope you are not one of them. As a responsible parent, you need to consciously make an effort to find an alternate to fighting to sort matters out. We are talking here of the kind of fighting that involves intense anger, rage, and sometimes even physical abuse.

Fighting with your children is a terrible thing to do to them. You end up verbally assaulting each other and keep bringing up old wrongs done....and the whole situation becomes a mess and your children grow up with bad experiences of the home. Is this what you want for your children?

Removing fighting from your home and with your children involves you

• Taking the decision to eliminate ugly fighting within the home.
• You do not wait for the children to change, you change.
• You take a stand on the issue. Declare it, that fighting in the home is history.
• Consciously vow not to raise your children in an environment of physical and/or mental and emotional abuse.
• You take responsibility and make the change. Let family fights be a thing of the past.

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